If you believe that life is only one-sided, thus meant to be just light, love and happiness, you aren't acknowledging that life indeed, is both light and dark, love and hatred, happiness and tragedy.
You are not just one-sided either: - you are kind and cruel, nice and mean, and all in between.
When you try to deny half of yourself, and seek and see only the one side, the other half will come to haunt you. Most people, when the other side appears, tend to want to deny it, cut it out, and disown it. More than this, beat themselves up about it, instead of understanding that the shadow serves, as much as the light.
Polarity consciousness in the 3D wanted us to cut out the shadow, and live in a fantasy world, where there is only light and love. A proverbial heaven. When the shadow appeared, we tended to label it, as everything else, and once labelled, disowned it, and called it bad or evil or whatever else.
In truth, the more you tend to want just happiness, light and love, the more you will attract the shadow, until you finally learn that light and shadow, are necessary components of the self-same energy force, the energy matrix field, the two sides of the same magnet. You cannot cut a magnet in half - and expect it to work. It needs BOTH the negative and positive poles.
Balance lies in the MIDDLE.
Once you start to understand this, and start balancing out your own false perceptions, and false belief systems, and understand that indeed they form a unified energy field, a Divine Matrix, you will find moments of pure transcendence. You will transcend the polarity consciousness, and for a moment embrace trancendence. Yet only for a moment.
Then the same lessons will repeat itself, so that life is constantly pushing you into unity, into ONENESS consciousness, so that you can finally understand that indeed, no-thing is missing. All is perfect, whole and complete.
You do not need to disown half of yourself, nor beat yourself up, and others, about their perceived imperfections. Everyone is but a mirror to you, to own all the missing parts of yourself, for every human being has every single human trait. We are all one and the same.
Unity consciousness, transcend polarity and strives for balance.
Judith Kusel
http://www.judithkusel.com